This Question is for the girls, but guys answer if you have any good advice.?

You both are going thru a lot, and probably had different expectations of each other. Going forward in a relationship does not only mean physically. It's great, but it's more important to get to know each other. If you want to be bf and gf, you need to see each other, even if its just chilling out somewhere, or doing something fun. Not seeing each other is like saying you're free to see others. This girl has trust issues, and she's not and independent thinker yet if she is so easily influenced by her friends. She may have had a rough home life since she allows bf and friends to treat her badly. Do you have to be so serious? Just date her and get to know each other more. But you won't get to know each other if you don't get together. You both have a lot of maturing to do, it can end well, but you don't know a lot...like how your life is going to be getting to know your father and living in South Africa, like how is she going to get over her grief with her ex and learn have good friends. Tell her your needs, like if you're going to be exclusive you need to see her more so you can get to know each other and support each other more. She may not be emotionally ready for years. This may be a subconscious test to see if you'll abandon her. It's a hard thing to deal with someone who has games they need to play, even if they don't realize they're doing it. I would ask for a more regular relationship (doesn't have to mean ) or else you're just casually dating and you can see others. Be friendly, take care of yourself too. good luck.