What things did you do to move on after your big split from your significant other?

My husband, after 9yrs, turned his back on me tonight. He 'loves' me but no longer thinks we're working. Fine it hurts like hell, I'm steamed that he never communicated with me and that now I'm a -soon to be - divorce statistic and I'm angry at myself for never seeing it sooner. I know I have lost my friends (we moved a lot for work/promotions etc) so the only friends we have left are his old school buddies so I have no one to turn to but myself (no family.) So my million dollar question today is what things (can be tiny or large) did you do to start fresh, move on?